Category Archives: Inspiration

Should You Act? Why?

When the going gets tough in your journey to become an actor-or whatever you’re striving towards – you may find yourself asking this question. I remember reading in Audition- I think it was-  the author’s answer to the question. He said something like

If you have to ask the question, perhaps no, you shouldn’t be an actor. If you could be reasonably happy doing something else, then by all means, no, don’t become an actor.

Should is a word that I don’t like to include in my vocabulary. It takes away freedom of choice and kind of implies expectations and what not.

A better question would be, “Do I want to act? Would I like to act?” Or something along those lines.

A good follow-up question to ask would be, “What is my motivation?” This is your why.

As any actor can attest, your motivation is what compels you to act. So know that there is no wrong or right answer to this question but stronger and weaker. Whatever your answer, make certain that it is strong enough to sustain your fire and keep it burning while driving through the obstacles that you are likely to encounter along the way.

The Power of Failure

“You will fail. That’s great. Here’s a secret for you – that’s the only way you can learn. Learning has to cost you something.” -Stella Adler

In life, losing is part of growing. For organs to form during embryonic development, some cells must commit suicide. Without such programmed cell death, we would all be born with webbed feet like ducks.

Overcoming Success catch-22

In the novel Catch-22, a fighter pilot decides he no longer wants to continue flying combat missions. He realizes there is a high possibility that he can lose his life if he continues and so he decides that he has flown enough missions.

So he then goes on to talk to the military doctor and requests to be grounded. The doctor explains that he cannot ground him based on his physical health. The pilot then claims to be crazy so that he can be grounded for psychological reasons. Still, the doctor doesn’t buy it from the pilot or the other bomber crew members who all agree that the pilot is crazy.

The doctor calls this catch-22: The pilot isn’t crazy, he’s asking to be grounded, which is a rational self-preserving desire; however, he considers the other crew members crazy because they don’t ask to be grounded (an irrational life-threatening choice).

This paradox is a similar hurdle for anyone who wants to become really successful: the more people want to succeed, the more they try to avoid the very kind of experiences that will bring about the learning that is needed to be a long-term success.


NASA has used significant failure as an important qualification for selecting new recruits. When they were looking for potential candidates for the Apollo 11 lunar mission, they invited resumes from the American people. They first weeded out applicants based on academic qualifications but they still had several thousand candidates.

The next step was interesting. They weeded out all candidates who had not bounced back from a significant failure at some time in their life. The apparent premise was that a person who had failed and then gotten up again was a stronger contender then one who had never experienced failure.

The butterfly’s struggle

A man was watching a butterfly struggling to break out of its cocoon. After making some progress to work its way through a small hole, the butterfly appeared to simply stop its efforts. For some time it seemed to make no progress, so the man concluded it was stuck and decided to help it by forming a larger opening in the cocoon with scissors. Afterward the butterfly emerged easily but with small, shriveled wings and a swollen body.

It turns out that the struggle to emerge from the cocoon would have forced the fluid from the butterfly’s body into its wings, a necessary process for enabling it to fly. As a result of the man’s well-intentioned help, he had interfered with nature’s life-strengthening process. The butterfly was now doomed to never fly, but to crawl around with its swollen body and shriveled wing for the rest of its life.

We need failures in life to provide us with the opportunities to wrestle with the kind of challenge that can squeeze the life-giving fluid we need to strengthen our wings for successful flight in life.

Break Free at

Last year, a couple of talented Gen Y’s leaders in their own respects, came together to create a great new site,

To me, Untemplater is all about breaking free of the coventions that social conditioning pushes us towards and living a life of your design. Or as Untemplater’s tagline reads: Work Where You Want……Live How You Want……Be Who You Want to Be!

Untemplater launched in January to great response.

It’s a site that resonates with my own mindset and mission to inspire others to see their own best and dreams manifest. So naturally I reached out to them to and submitted a post for the site. You can read my post about breaking destructive and bad habits here.

Untemplater is always looking for writers. If you feel you vibe with their message, or any of the other topics they cover- which is very expansive-and have some quality content to share, you can submit to their content manager, the owl, here. It’s a multi-author site so your perspective would fit right in with the variety.